Mum astounded when sister says she will charge £20 for Christmas lunch: ‘Can’t believe it’ | UK | News
A woman is being asked to pay £20 by her sister to attend her Christmas dinner, according to a Mumsnet post. The revelation has divided opinion on whether family and friends should be asked to make a contribution to their hosts on December 25.
The post on the website said: “My colleague told me yesterday that her sister has invited her for Christmas Day dinner but wants to charge her £20 towards the meal.
“She can’t believe it and has so far told her she’ll think about it and get back to her.
“Her sister has also invited their mother who isn’t charged and two brothers who are.
“I can’t imagine charging a guest, especially family, I’d even go so far as telling them to just bring themselves if they asked if I wanted anything bringing.
“I usually cook Christmas Day but go to family every third year but I don’t know if I’d go if they wanted payment from me.”
Asking for advice, they added: “Am I out of touch? Is this a common thing to charge family for dinner?
“I save through the year for Christmas gifts and food but am I the exception? Would you/do you charge and/or pay family?”
The post split opinion among other Mumsnet users, with one branding it “odd” but another said it was “actually quite fair”.
One user replied: “I think it’s odd to ask for it as cash, we usually take all the desserts and someone else brings some drinks etc so the cost is sort of shared out.”
A second said: “No it’s crass!”
A third added: “Yes I would find it odd to be asked for payment but often have asked guests/been asked to bring something such as an item of food or drink. Probably with the current financial circumstances though I would think it’s fair enough.”
Another highlighted the cost of living crisis, saying: “£20 really isn’t that much for Christmas dinner and given the rising costs of everything, I personally don’t think it’s unreasonable.”
A fifth person wrote: “I think if only one person has space to host everyone, and everyone wants to be together, everyone chipping in to cover the cost of food is actually quite fair.
“I’ve seen turkeys for over £100. That’s before you start on sides, drinks, desserts etc.”
One more said: “I very much doubt she is making a profit! She probably just can’t afford (or not easily) to put on a super snowy good meal without a contribution.
“In my family we each do a different thing – one person buys the turkey, someone else the ham, someone does a couple of veg dishes, I usually make the pudding and bring the custard and ice cream to go with it, everyone brings booze.
“There are 20 or so people to feed – would be totally unfair for one family to pick up the whole costs.”
It comes as a survey of 2,000 Brits by Flora found one in 10 will charge grandparents for their Christmas Day dinner.
Etiquette expert Lucy Challenger told The Sun: “As the cost of living crisis takes hold it’s clear we need to make difficult decisions.”